Q2. Does moving a lot make me more flexible with my life and choices?

First, let’s understand what flexibility means here. Flexibility means being able to adjust when things change — without breaking (panic or resistance).

Personally, I see flexibility as:

When I move a lot and experience different cultures, I practise this again and again. Over time, adapting becomes natural, not stressful. I learn to compromise, prepare ahead, and hold plans more loosely.

The big change would be more like I stop asking, “Why is this wrong?”, “Should this one done this way?” and start asking, “How does this work here?"

I become flexible because there is no right path.

The words “should” and “shouldn’t” slowly disappeared from my thinking. I stopped measuring my life against one rulebook and started choosing what truly best for me. There are many ways to live life, show respect, love family, or define success. What feels normal in one place can feel strange in another — and both can still be valid.

Example:
In Australia, people often speak directly and share opinions.
In Japan, people may speak less and show respect through quiet manners.
In China, things can move fast and people focus on results.
In Indonesia, people often build relationships first and keep harmony.

Different styles, different values — not right or wrong. Just different.

I become less attached to control.

When you move a lot, you realise you can’t control everything — visas, timing, people, systems, or outcomes. Because of this, you also become less emotionally dramatic about change. What once felt like a crisis becomes a problem to solve. Missed train? New schedule. Plan cancelled? New option. This doesn’t make you heartless or ignorance — it makes you steady.

And somehow, this mindset fits my business really well — especially when I’m managing a team remotely. Remote work is basically the same lesson: you can’t control every detail, every hour, or every mood. You can only control the system. It’s not perfect — but it’s stable. And honestly, that steadiness is one of the biggest benefits I’ve gained from living across cultures.

I definitely become more observant.

When I am new somewhere, I notice I watch more than I speak. I learn to read the room. Maybe it’s because I don’t fully understand the language yet, don’t know the people well, and everything is still new.

I learned humility and a quieter kind of confidence.

I have to accept being the “new one” by asking questions, make mistakes, sometimes look dumb — and you do it anyway. I have to learn to be a beginner without feeling ashamed.

After doing this a few times, I stopped needing approval from one system or one culture. I trust myself more because I know I can adapt again if I need to. That confidence is calm, not loud.

You also become selective.

Starting over is tiring, so I value depth over noise. I keep fewer friendships, but they mean more. I make fewer commitments, but they’re more intentional.

For example, back then, moving to a new place made me so excited. I wanted to meet everyone — lots of meet-ups, lots of new faces, always saying yes. These days, I do less of that. I choose quality over quantity, and I save my energy for connections that feel real.

For me, flexibility isn’t about having endless options.
It’s about choosing what makes my life lighter — in my bag, in my plans, and in my mind. And I learned that from moving again and again.